This is a truth that hit hard. And its unfolding deeper and deeper for every time I circle it back to it’s essence.
I made a mistake based on an assumption, or a innocent misunderstanding. Something that is easy to do when we are humans. Let me take you back in time.
I was a single mom (still am) but the time these reflections were born, my youngest one was just a baby, and I was a young woman trying to figure life out by herself, and whatever books she came across.
a few examples I remember vividly
Petter Stordalen, a successful business man wrote his book about his great risks, adventures and early mornings. Never ever did I see him write about late night, puking babies, crying toddlers or the constant focus that the mind has as a parent.
Fredrik Eklund, a hero among real estators, he had happy socks and made funny jumps when he walked around, in order to be remembered, in a busy world where everyone wants to be in the spotlight. He also wrote about his priorities, MAKE SURE TO USE EAR PLUGS, BECAUSE YOUR SLEEP IS PRECIOUS…
I was reading books about men and how they made life an amazing journey, while not having to take responsibility for anyone else. I could see how I got bitter. I loved being a mom, but ear plugs would not really be the wise priority if the kids would need me throughout the nights. I felt inspiration turn into bitterness and frustration.
Later on, I read books about money and money mindset. AGAIN written by men. A common theme in these books where the words ”When I learned to be of service EVERYTHING changed” (hence, that’s when the money entered their lives with more ease).
I thought about that for a while. And I felt, if I ever have to be of service for ANYMORE PEOPLE I will be exhausted. So my assumption was that THESE MEN, hadn’t practiced being of service like US WOMEN. So that was the inbalance they had to work through, while ME and women like me, had to learn to give ourselves first. And if I just learned to make myself a priority more, balance would be uphold, because I aaaaalways serve and give wherever I go. (There is a difference between true energetics and habitual actions).
I was wrong.
I was right and wrong.
I had it all messed up.
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I didn’t start a business to make money. I started it because it felt fun, it sounded a bit cool, I was doing animal communication and didn’t want problems with the authorities. Better do things the right way. I felt like a fraud sending my invoices and guilty when getting the money. I did not start a business to run a business. But I was bored of my job, so why not, it felt like fun?
My first year I made 140.000 sek on a course that costed 3500 sek and some 1:1 services on the rage of 500-900 sek.
I was CHOCKED when I saw the numbers by the end of the year. It was more money than I thought was possible for me to get in maybe, I don’t know. I didn’t calculate stuff 😆
That year made me money out of pure joy, because I was so excited to teach intuition, share my animal communication and do some energy work on people. I felt like I had entered a magical world and I wanted to bring everyone with me. LOOK WHAT WE GET TO EXPERIENCE IN THIS LIFE TIME!!
I was in joyful service, I gave because I was overflowing and the results blew my mind.
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Then… I thought ”Lets learn how to do it the real way” and I ”entered” business, wondering if I actually belonged. Could I even call myself a business owner?
I’ve been confusing my way around in business for a while ever since. Learning a lot in many different fields, taking breaks from creating sources of income in order to write the book, publish the book… Avoiding the business because I felt confused. Tried things I learned…. and here is one very annoying experience….
I would help my friends and clients with strategies (marketing and sales) which I had learn from different teachers, and they would apply it with great results…. while me myself and I felt like MEH…. Nothing would match up the experience from my first year… Although I made more money, it wasn’t significant and I almost always felt like something was missing.
What was missing?
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The most essential part.
I was focusing on the wrong thing. My aim was
”How can I do business the correct way? How could I create a business for me? That supports me and my family? How can I make this sustainable for me? How can I make something that is fun for me? etc….
For being someone who identifies as not so selfish, those questions are very self centered… and not in a good way.
OBVIOUSLY those are important questions, but those are not the money making questions. Those are not the energetics that will make people reach out to buy your stuff.
Turns out, all the men in those books where right. Your work HAS to be of service to others. Why the hell would the clients pay you otherwise? 😂
However, if you would feel like I felt back then ”If I have to serve more people I will become exhausted”… (or anything close to that energy) your answer is not to, not be of service. Your answer is to serve yourself first.
This is one part of Be(coming) the Abundance. You are responsible for your foundation. A solid, loving, good foundation, is what gives you a place to serve from. Sleep matters, food matters, nutrition, intimacy, laughter, art, emotional release, solving conflicts. An open heart where you actually appreciate what you do and who you are, where you SEE AND FEEL the value you bring to others, where your clients result or experience becomes EVEN MORE important for you. That’s a great foundation to run a business from.
It’s you being in your abundant experience of life, with your abundant expression. You don’t even have to overthink about how to say, what and when (even though strategies will amplify your message!!). If you cant shut up about the benefits your work has, you are on a good route. The right people gets to find you.
You might need to clean up your vibration in order to step in to abundance,
You might need to open your heart to be able to connect with your love,
You might need to drop your fear of judgement to wholeheartedly take up the space you desire.
There might be more things to uncover for you.
You get to enjoy yourself, your life and the service you put forward to the world (regardless if you run your own company or not). The laws are energetic so you will be rewarded regardless.
important shadow side note:
It will not work if you say OK LET ME BE OF SERVICE SO THAT I CAN GET GREAT THINGS IN RETURN 😂 that’s a greedy needy shadow that might pop up every now and then. Its fine, greet it with love and bring in light and awareness.
That was that. My Biggest Mistake in Business was to make it all about me, instead of making it all about you. Not that I didn’t car about you before. I did, I always have. But my business has to be built around serving you. Just like a restaurant is serving food with a entire echo system that are designed for the costumer experience.
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It’s so funny how we walk around in life to search for wisdom, and all the teacher says ”yes look within, there it is” and when we find it we say ”oh lordy lord, it was here all along, why did I search over there?”
But that’s the journey we are on, to walk each other home, to mirror each other and be the teacher and the student.
The biggest win of these years in confusion, dabble and wrong turns, is that I get to teach the wisdom and the nuance from it all (which I’m supposed to as a 6/2 Manifestor human design girly). It’s more about life than about business, yet business mirrors life pretty well 😂 either I’m nailing it or I’m not. These past 6 months of exploring abundance is changing me so much, and I’m here to dive deeper in to how I can serve with more depth, and truly expand and ground those energetics deeply. As always, what I give I want to share, yet anchoring in the energetics of service deeper then ever before.
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